Dad has been out of my life for 20 years. I want a relationship but he wont contact me.(Please Read)?

Aww, that is so sad. I know that it must be difficult for you now. I see that you are a forgiving person that believes in god. Not everyone has the ability to forgive someone. You seem like a very noble and sensible woman, many can learn a lot from you. I must say that your father actions to have a relationship with your mother were not mature. However I believe that everything happens for a reason. You should not deny the past between your parents, instead learn to accept it even if it hurts you from the inside. Let's say that your father would of never cheated on that woman, that means that he would never had had a relationship with your mother thus deleting your existence. That would mean that you won't be able to fulfill your destiny in life, which in your case would me something having to do with medical science. Who knows you could save about 30 lives in the future or even more. Your father could still be in denial that you are his daughter it's ashame. I see you believe in god. Why don't you ask yourself this questions: Did god know me life would be better without my dad or no? You must realize that not all people are good and some might even hurt you. Who knows maybe your father could of had ruined your future or even inate you if you had lived with him. You never know. Your life might be better off without him. Instead be thankful for mother who seemed to be there for you. You must understand that the reason she might have moved away from your father was to protect you, not only emotionally but physically too. Things happen for a reason. You say that you want a relationship with your father, and after you track him down he still dose not call you. You might not even find it in his heart to forgive himself. I'm sorry to say this but in my opinion the best thing to do is move on. You can't make someone love you nor you can't change what happen between your parents. Maybe god thinks that he is not safe for you. You are growing up into a professional woman and medical school is no joke: it is serious work, and I would not want your emotions for father to get in the way with your education. You must learn to go with the flow in life. In our life we lose many we have loved will die, but we must learn to cope with reality and value to good people that have died, not the ones you didn't love you. Go fulfill your future instead of making up for the past.